EDUCATION IN THE FAMILY.
This is an issue that has been
very important alwais, but today due to several social circumstances, has
become more necessary and needed than ever. In the matter of education of our
sons, the parents are the first responsable, the most useful and irreplaceble
in their first years, later priests, professors and else, will have important
influence also. So we see the reason to prepare ourselves to perform this
important part of our lives. Some of the very important things to consider are:
Introduction
to catholic faith, knowledment of environement, vocation, authonomy,
career, responsability at home, study center, social surounding, good manners
and exquicite social education etc. with the objective of having a happy life,
and the eternal happiness in tho next life. This is the enormous advantage of
salvation teached in cathoic families. A life full of contents, loving
humanity, as Jesus Christ taugth us in the new comandment, given to his
disciples as part of his final instructions: “just as I have loved you, you must
also love one another” John 13,
34.
At home children are subject to:
Expectations in: experiences, answers to
environment, love, affection, sympathy, reaction to learning process, and
adults are supossed to give them the tools to grow and mature. Their personalities
will come out in due time, and the feeling of freedom will have a definite roll
in their lives. This calls our attention in relation to the quality of
teachings ,that we, as parents have to use in order to have a good catholic
influence that forms their spiritual way of being, acting, living, with
rectitude of intention in all their decisions, with the inner power to govern
themselves, keeping away the bad influences of our own pasions, and giving space
to all good acts, intentions, manners of being good persons in front of God and
the human race, being example of how we must live as good catholics. All the
actual problems in the world would be solved, just by living by all humans, the
New Comandment, given to all us from Jesus Christ.
Overall education includes many
aspects, we can mention as example besides the allready mentioned of Spiritual
deep conviction, introduction to catholic faith, hope and love, moral convictions,
matters as keeping good health, physical devepment, hygiene, affinity to art,
good attitudes and habits in social life, possitive aproach towards work, predisposition
to be be good citizens and family persons, and have preference for realy honest
relations to others. As we can see, with this in mind and many other good
caractheristics of a fine personality, the family education is a challenging
but payable experience of life.
Following I have taken some
parographs from:
The Role of Parents in the Education of
Children Ardita Ceka1* Rabije Murati2 1.Faculty of Philosophy, University of
Tetova, 176 no.53A, Tetovo,1200 Macedonia 2.Faculty of Philosophy, University
of Tetova,1200 Macedonia.
“ THE MOTHER AS AN EDUCATOR.- Mother
is the first and the best teacher- proverb The family enables children
protection in that suggestively that makes parents responsible for their
developing and to make their children grow into a total personality. The role of the woman or the mother as an
educator represents a crucial resource to the development of the individual
identity, which from researchers is seen even as more important as the very
marital status of the parents and the occupation of the parents themselves. It
seems that the feeling of being a mother, to the woman is more powerful than
being a father of given child for the husband. Always in accordance to the
biological as well as physiological relation of mother to the child, represents
the first and reasonable part or segment of the child’s development. This for
the reason that mother assures child’s life, as she is the one who brings the
child in this world, and further on she raises them from being little towards
reaching a total independency in mature life. The mother’s function in this
regard, has a very important role which as such may be divided into two parts
or directions: The first one is related to the child’s defense, while the other
one to the child’s overall development. Mother’s protection as a function embeds
several types of actions or types of functions. The 1st type is connected to
the physical protection of the child, which means that the child must be
provided healthcare and hygienic conditions, so that he/she could have a
healthy life in a worm home environment in every sense of the word, including
here the ambiance where the child lives, which must be well enlighten, a
healthy place which offers the child to be showered, feed up and taken care in
general. The 2nd type is the Psychological protection, which can be reflected
through the child’s emotional security and psychological protection, especially
in moments when the child feels it when the mother is next to him i.e. her.
Another group of activities in this regard, are the maternal functions regarding
the child’s development involving here the physical development, the
intellectual development as well as the emotional development of the child.
(Grancic, Radovan, 2006) Each child which grows up and is educated in the
presence of mother, for sure is expected to reach an appropriate physical,
psychological as well as social development. In this regard, these children
have a much better appearance, the look happy and they enjoy the childhood in
general. They are communicative and as such they are ready to cooperate.
(Brada, Riza. 1995) For this reason, mother’s love and care to the child, is
full and well completed, and as such is often accepted by other members of the
very family. This type of cultivated love and affection can be qualified as a
key condition for an appropriate development of the children in a given family.
The children experience the physical as well as psychological effects of the
mother, and as such they are taken as model which influences their further
development during their emotional stage of development of their moral values
as whole. This element of the so called child’s identification, the child
embeds it in his/her personality for years on and on, throughout his/her total
lifespan. It is planted in their character as well as temperament, and as such
it is reflected through his/ her attitudes and thoughts in interaction or
behavior comportment with the society in general. Almost all culture have
developed arrangements which enable mothers to provide for basic child care
while maintaining other duties that are instrumental to family well – being.
(James, Garbarino. 1982) However, depending on the economic, social as well as
emotional limitations, mothers, nowadays have a variety of opportunities to be
able to reach or make real their mother’s role, which helps the child’s overall
development and enables mothers to enjoy the fact of being mother. The modern
experiences, show quite Journal of Education and Practice www.iiste.org ISSN
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derailments from this path of action, which as such can be illustrated with the
fact of single mothers, mothers coming from unemployed background, under age
mother etc.”.
“THE FATHER AS AN EDUCATOR.- The father in a
family is a very important factor, concerning the organization of a nice and
appropriately functional development of a house hold, with a specific accent on
the children. Helping fathers be the ‘best fathers they can be’ is therefore of
enormous importance to children. A god father must be a good parent and a good
husband. This person is extremely important factor in the organization of the
family life as a whole, which are the basic ground towards a happily and joyful
family for all the members of a respective family. Many young fathers want to
do things better than how they have experienced in their lives.
(Claudia&Eberhard Muhlan. 2008) His presence in the family has a particular
importance while it leads the family members, i.e. the children towards a
feeling of safety in their life reigning on the overall family members as a
compact union of members. In these circumstances of safety, the children are
the ones who benefit mostly. However, the so called subjective experiencing of
the parents by their children varies in different ways and family models, and
as such his relevance in a family is much more different from the one that is
performed by mothers. As a result of the gender prejudices in terms of the
duties to be performed in their family, especially regarding their approach and
contribution towards their children’s education, it turns out that mothers are
more prepared to undertake their role in their children’s education, rather
than their fathers. Fathers make a powerful difference in defining expectation
and challenging children to do their best. (Constantine, Tammy. 1999) As such,
the children learn their responsibilities and role in the family, when they
themselves grow up and become parents, which is they are mature to play the
father’s role in this regard. Given this theory, there has been done much
research, which proves that the relationship between father and child becomes
stronger. This relationship does not result to be dependent from neither of the
other two relations i.e. the one between father and child neither the one
mother-child. (Cowan, C. 1992) In order to have a successfully brought up and
well educated children in one family, parents are crucial and they must be
careful to some elements which play a key role in raising, bringing up and
educating their children; Firstly, while the parent’s principal role in the
family is the education and the bringing up of their children, then the main
obligation of their children is to study harder and properly. For this aim,
they need to be well instructed how to study, based upon rules and principles
of an appropriate learning and studying. This approach would open to them the
doors of the world of a behaviorist attitude towards the work, making possible
for them to get to know better the relevance of working as one of the main
behaviorist elements of the human kind. Secondly, the development of the child
is in fact an overall child’s personality formation. The parents as educators
must be able to recognize the basic features of their child, interests,
temperament and especially the child’s emotional features regarding the child’s
character. Thirdly, the child’s personality formation has resulted to be
constructed mostly based upon child’s socialization in general. The
socialization process as such, for sure nowadays represents the most important
one of all other processes involved in his formation as a child. Thus, the
child commences to socialize within a given society since the early stage of
his/her childhood at parents’ home, circled by parental atmosphere and the relationship
between family members in general. In this entourage, the child makes the first
steps in the society, manifesting the basic features of behavior, which as such
are the fundaments of further social development and integration of the child
in a given society”. Lets pray to the holy Virgin our mother in heaven to make
us good educators in the family. JCS.
