HONOR TO YOUR FATHER AND YOUR MOTHER (Fourth Commandment).
On several occasions we will meditate family matters, many important and urgent issues, because as we well know the family is under pressure trying to weaken it, and even some people would like to delete it from the map of social life, so as to be able to manipulate uneducated persons. Of course this is impossible because the nature of mankind is always imposed. But that is attacked and heavily at this time, this is a reality we must fight. ! what a sad reality !.
One of the most important things to consider is related to the way we understand the fourth commandment:” Honor thy father and thy mother”. And today it is important to stress that, given the countless complaints from parents regarding the lack of respect that children should have with their parents. We are all children and most of us are parents, so we all lie in the issue.
Self-criticism should be the first thing to be addressed, see what our mistakes as parents may have been and how much of the blame is ours in this degradation of the parent progeny relations. If it is true that there is a natural authority over our children, but remember that the highest authority is the moral one, and may there be that we have failed, generally speaking, and considering that perhaps we are paying for the lack of proper education or our sins in regard to our descendents, due even to parents who have taken their role as educators in the highest possible level, now suffer the consequences.
Therefore we should examine several questions:
How we conducted the authority over our children?
Have we argued bitterly among spouses in front of our children?
Have we informed the Christian meaning of life?
Have we really given our love, our respect and good treatment?
Has been our example above reproach in every way?
Have we prayed intensely for them, commending their needs?
Have we over-protected, or have given too much money?
Have we taught the human virtues beginning at the cradle?
Have we fostered the love between brothers?
Have they had orders to discipline and teach them to be subsidiary?
Have we worked in schools with our presence in meetings of
parents and teachers?
Have we taken seriously their intellectual development?
Have you tried to be achieving its autonomy?
AND THERE'S MORE, THESE ARE ONLY EXAMPLES. So we can conclude that parenting is perhaps the most difficult role to play in life for humans, the most important, more urgent, more necessary, it is virtually impossible to adequately respond to all questions relating to paternity, which leads us to believe that it is very hard to be "perfect parents", so something must be analyzed that has affected our children and that we need to pin. Moreover, we know that given the freedom of human beings, there is not warranty even if we have given our best to be the most good educators of our offspring, as we could, regardless of the influence of genes.
The problems from the widespread confusion between freedom and license are those who most influenced the current difficulties in parent-child relationship, so that education in freedom is taking on greater importance than ever. This will be the subject of another blog post. For now the parents of young children (under fourteen years, tell us experts in child education) should consider very seriously the above burning questions. And parents of children who have passed that age will need to enter in their family lives palliatives that they deem appropriate to conform as much as possible about the paternity of love and harmony, trying to get moral authority instead of that imposed by the natural hierarchy.
Jorge Casas and Sanchez